Sunday, June 12, 2011

Fear

I haven't forgotten about the updates I promised. They're coming soon. At the moment, I'm finishing up a novel and doing a bit of traveling (meetings in New York and research in New Hampshire on the Maura Murray case). Expect something next week.

In the meantime, I've been meaning to say a little something on the subject of fear.

I get a lot of emails from people who read this blog or my true crime books and they begin something like this: "What a scary world we live in" or "I'm never letting my daughter out of the house, again" or "You can't trust anybody these days". For some reason, many people believe this is the message I'm trying to get across in my writing. It couldn't be further from the truth.

I actually believe people are generally good. The fact that abductions and murders are so unbelievably rare says something great about the society in which we live. We think these things happen more often because when they do occur, the news writes a lot about them. But your daughter has a better chance of dying in a plane crash than she does at the hands of a serial killer. At yet we still fly.

The solution is not to be more fearful but to be LESS fearful. Instead of building walls around ourselves in order to keep us "safe" we should be doing the opposite. If every one of us took the time to really get to know the people living to the right of us and the people living to the left of us, these abduction/murders might never happen. If we all did this, we'd know right away if our friend next door was beginning to get dangerously depressed or if he started to build a tent compound in his back yard where he could keep his kidnapped victims. If we took the time to befriend them, we could get them help before they went crazy.

Take the time to know your neighbors. Befriend them. Care for them. We're talking a couple hours a month in exchange for a better place to live. That's the answer.

5 comments:

Bill M. said...

Well said.

Jeanne said...

Amen...and once again thank you for your courage and heart......makes the world a better place

Pennsylvanian said...

Well said, James. If people would just start "looking out" for one another & paying attention to their surroundings instead of being so fearful...I think it would put the fear in the predators and not the people anymore! And talk to your kids!

Anonymous said...

Sorry, James. But the pig who killed her had neighbors. You have to look out for your own. It's a nice sentiment, but tragically flawed.

Anonymous said...

James is not flawed. What is flawed is that the government wants you to be their "friend" and your neighbor is the enemy. Before you go off the deep end and call me a conspirator, consider that in the flood following the Great Depression, the people REFUSED government help. They relied on each OTHER. After Katrina, the sheeple were begging for government help and looting and shooting each other. Now we got Big Sis telling us in Walmart, "If you see something, say something". The only thing government is interested in is perpetuity of government.